Is it normal for your guy to roam through your phone? Perhaps not. But ladies let’s be honest, it isn’t quite fair to roam through his either. This is one double standard many women may have a hard time admitting to.
The need to snoop through your mate’s phone only skims the surface of the trust issues you may have in your relationship. Ask yourself, why are you snooping? Do you have a reason to snoop or could it be on set by your own insecurities? Same goes for him.
You have to first address these underlying issues if you want to resolve the issue at hand. If you can’t trust each other then you don’t belong together. It’s as simple as that. Why waste time in a relationship you have little faith in?
Truth is, invading each others privacy causes more harm than good. Almost always! You see a flirty text from one of his female “friends” , he sees some wild pics from a ladies night out two Fridays ago, you both lose! Get my drift?
Should sex be mandatory in marriage? A judge in France seems to think so.
If you’re married and unhappy with your sex life, should you sue your spouse?
That’s exactly what a woman in France did recently. In a rare decision, a judge ordered her ex-husband pay $14,000 in damages for failing to have enough sex during their 21-year marriage. This raises the question, “Is sex a mandatory part of marriage?”
According to one American study from the General Social Survey, married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year — a little more than once a week. But 15 percent of married couples haven’t had sex with their spouse in the last six months-to-one-year, according to a study conducted by Georgia State University.
- CBS News
The R&B songstress tweeted the following message on twitter just one day ago. Could she be hinting at a new fund love, perhaps?
The usually private singer has been linked with rappers Bow Wowand 50 Cent, and most recently dated basketball player Amare’ Stoudemire. Unfortunately for the singer, her relationships are rather short lived, losing steam before it even begins .
And now, with just a single tweet, many are wondering who this mystery man could possibly be Hmmm…..interesting. We’ll be watching Ciara.
Bossip recently had the privilege of interviewing model turned actress Amber Rose and Rose has some pretty interesting things to say. From taking a hand at acting, her image, falling in love with current beau Wiz Khalifa and having babies. Check it out.
So much for those divorce rumors. Will & Jada were spotted having brunch followed by a shopping spree in Malibu today.
Although, various new media would like us to believe the couple is on the outs and that Jada’s had an alleged affair with Mark Anthony (Ha! laughable), the couple were seem smiling and enjoying each others company, taking photos with fans and chopping it up to photographers.
Much like the earthquake that shook the east coast today, many were in shock this morning when media outlets began reporting of a split between husband and wife dynamic duo Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith.
The couple, who’ve served as role models for couples and singles searching for their one true love, released this statement once they received news of their impending divorce,
“Although we are reluctant to respond to these types of press reports, the rumors circulating about our relationship are completely false. We are still together, and our marriage is intact.”
Times sure has changed. Women are now the bread winners of their families, CEO’s of successful businesses, innovators and trend setters but when it comes to dating many of us still expect the man to take the lead. Admit it, as women, most of us ravish in being able to provide for ourselves, be independent and make our own rules as we see fit but we still expect a man to be a man. And that includes making the first move. Our pride and fear of rejection hasn’t allowed us to overcome that obstacle just yet. After all, we choose our mates right, not the other way around.
But just in case you do want to make the first move. Here are nine tips you may find handy in grabbing your guy’s attention.
At a sports bar: “What’s the most impressive goal you’ve ever scored in a game?”
Double entendre aside, ahem, dudes love to talk about sports almost as much as they love to brag. This question taps into both of those things. Whether he tells you about his high school years as the star quarterback, or surprises you with a minor league past — just know he’s already digging you, simply because you asked.
At a club: “I dare you to show me your moonwalk.”
To a guy, completing a dare is as mandatory as applying deodorant in the morning. Moonwalk, Macarena, or The Dougie — he’s going to do it. And when he makes a complete clown out of himself, you’ll be there to swoop in and save him from his two left feet. We’re guessing he’ll repay you with a round of drinks.
At a restaurant bar: “They have the best nachos here. Ever tried ‘em?”
If they don’t serve nachos, choose another menu item nearly everyone has a strong opinion about, like pizza or wings. Best case? He agrees with you and you decide to share a plate. Worst case? He disagrees, you flirtatiously fight, and then you offer to buy him some — just to prove him wrong. It’s a win-win line that will have any guy eating off of your plate. Literally.
At a friend’s party: “I wanted to talk to you the second I got here, but no one introduced me. So I’m introducing myself.”
Men are attracted to confident women. He’ll think the fact you had the chutzpah to approach him is hot. Sure, some guys like to make the first move, but that doesn’t mean they’re not pleasantly surprised when a woman does the legwork.
(photo credit: Clutch Magazine)
The Bad Breakup Recovery Plan
By Sanjiv Bhattacharya For Men’s Life Today
Nothing brings on an emotional apocalypse like being ditched by the woman you love. It’s Cupid’s evil twin kicking you in the gut, and it seems the only option is to wallow in misery. With your confidence broken, it’s hard to face the world again.
The truth is, many have been there before and lived to tell the tale. We talked to relationship experts to find out the quickest and most pain-free way to turn your mindset around — because it is, after all, all about attitude — and get back on that horse. This is their advice.
1. Avoid the Rebound
“Don’t wallow in your bad feelings and then stagger out there before you’re ready,” says Tina Tessina, a relationships counselor and the author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. “You’re just going to set yourself up for the same situation all over again.”
If you’re still feeling like a basket case, you’ll come off like a basket case, and that’s not the “you” you want to put out there. There’s a difference between allowing some time to let the wounds heal and pining over a lost cause.
2. Do Something Manly
According to David Wygant, a relationships expert and the author of Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life, it’s important to get away for a weekend. “Book a vacation. I don’t care what your budget is. Go away by yourself or bring a great friend and do something manly,” he advises. “Go kayaking or sailing on a lake, go for a hike, go camping with the boys.”
Let’s take a look at one woman’s perspective of how she became, as she puts it, a “gold digger”. Interestingly enough, I recently had a similar conversation with a friend detailing my own frustration a few years back when I had graduated college and had difficulty finding a job. I wondered, why bother going to school when your degree isn’t viable in the “real world”. To say the least I was seething with anger. Here’s one woman’s experience on how in desperate times she resorted to desperate measures.
Let me start by saying that I am a well educated woman in my late 20′s. I always use to pride myself on my many accomplishments since I was a child. I’ve always been driven, I am college educated and even had plans to go back to school and further my education. That all changed when I lost my job in early 2009.
I worked as a marketing assistant for a television network in New York City making a mere 30k per year and was quite satisfied with my job. I overlooked the low wage and long hours because I really enjoyed what I did. Since college I had decided I’d work my way up to being a TV executive. Unfortunately in the midst of a failing economy and not knowing the “right people” I was disposable.
I was devastated! I mean, I was a diligent worker, was punctual, always showed interest in my craft, I wanted to grow in this field. I believed I was on the right path to success and no one could stop me. Talk about motivated! Immediately I sent out resumes, signed up for every newsletter, job seeker account I could find. However, finding another job in the flatey industry seemed almost impossible. No one wanted to hire me. I had only worked at my previous job a little over a year and they needed someone with more experience. Even, my former boss, who’d advise me to stay in touch in case further opportunities presented them self was let go. The people who had all promised to provide references and help me in any way couldn’t and didn’t. They were too wrapped up in their own job security. Thankfully, I was still living at home and my parents were supportive. Although this eased the stress of having to provide for myself and pay rent I couldn’t help but feel worthless. All I’d done did not pay off. I mean, this didn’t make sense. This couldn’t make sense. I’ve always been taught that if you do the right thing and work hard then you’ll gain in return, right?
One night I’m sitting on the coach watching television. I believe it was one of the housewives reality shows and thinking to myself, “these spoiled selfish bitches!” _______READMORE
We may live in the modern age of the “independent women” but when it comes to the men in lives some women still live in the stone ages. No matter how educated, beautiful, wealthy and/or successful for these women their lives just won’t be complete until they have the man too.
This poses an interesting question, do women compromise their own beliefs for their relationships?
Socialite and reality star Kim Kardashian is Self Magazine’s April Issue cover girl. The star discusses her love life, her craziest dating rumor and why you shouldn’t believe everything you hear. She also provides beauty tips, advice on love and her close knit family.
Don’t Believe the Gossip
“Rumors don’t bother me anymore. I’ve read that I’ve had my lips done. I’ve always had big lips. Look at my baby pictures. It’s ridiculous. Or they’ll show one picture of me today and one tomorrow, and say I’ve had my nose done in between. When? Didn’t you just see me yesterday? And how many times have I ‘had my butt done’? People’s logic is so weird. I don’t know why they bother! You can’t worry about all the gossip.”
Craziest Dating Rumor
“One time they said I was dating Terrence Howard and I was on his lap at his party. I don’t even know what they were talking about. They said I went home with him, too!”
She’s A Neat Freak
“I’m the biggest neat freak at home. I don’t have people over for that reason, because I don’t like anyone in my space. I think I was a housekeeper in my last life. Sitting at home in sweats and cleaning out my closet would be a perfect night for me.”
Beauty Must Have
“I’m obsessed with my nails. I get them done once or twice a week because it makes me feel clean. My favorite color right now: OPI’s Midnight in Moscow.”
“I have such a great family! Khloe is the person I go to for advice when I want harsh reality. And we work out together. Kourtney is busy with her baby, so I don’t bug her for advice on minor things. And she’s as indecisive as I am!”
Love Don’t Cost A Thing
“Everything in life isn’t measured by money. Success is how you live your life and treat other people. I’ve always lived my life trying to be a good and considerate person. To me, love and family are everything. You need supportive people around you, and I hold on to them. I’ve had the same friends for a long time.”
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