Is it normal for your guy to roam through your phone? Perhaps not. But ladies let’s be honest, it isn’t quite fair to roam through his either. This is one double standard many women may have a hard time admitting to.

The need to snoop through your mate’s phone only skims the surface of the trust issues you may have in your relationship. Ask yourself, why are you snooping? Do you have a reason to snoop or could it be on set by your own insecurities? Same goes for him.

You have to first address these underlying issues if you want to resolve the issue at hand. If you can’t trust each other then you don’t belong together. It’s as simple as that. Why waste time in a relationship you have little faith in?

Truth is, invading each others privacy causes more harm than good. Almost always! You see a flirty text  from one of his female “friends” , he sees some wild pics from a ladies night out two Fridays ago, you both lose! Get my drift?

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Let’s take a look at one woman’s perspective of how she became, as she puts it, a “gold digger”. Interestingly enough, I recently had a similar conversation with a friend detailing my own frustration a few years back when I had graduated college and had difficulty finding a job. I wondered, why bother going to school when your degree isn’t viable in the “real world”. To say the least I was seething with anger.  Here’s one woman’s experience on how in desperate times she resorted to desperate measures.

Let me start by saying that I am a well educated woman in my late 20′s. I always use to pride myself on my many accomplishments since I was a child. I’ve always been driven, I am college educated and even had plans to go back to school and further my education. That all changed when I lost my job in early 2009.

I worked as a marketing assistant for a television network in New York City making a mere 30k per year and was quite satisfied with my job. I overlooked the low wage and long hours because I really enjoyed what I did. Since college I had decided I’d work my way up to being a TV executive. Unfortunately in the midst of a failing economy and not knowing the “right people” I was disposable.

I was devastated! I mean, I was a diligent worker, was punctual, always showed interest in my craft, I wanted to grow in this field. I believed I was on the right path to success and no one could stop me. Talk about motivated! Immediately I sent out resumes, signed up for every newsletter, job seeker account I could find. However, finding another job in the flatey industry seemed almost impossible. No one wanted to hire me. I had only worked at my previous job a little over a year and they needed someone with more experience. Even, my former boss, who’d advise me to stay in touch in case further opportunities presented them self was let go. The people who had all promised to provide references and help me in any way couldn’t and didn’t. They were too wrapped up in their own job security. Thankfully, I was still living at home and my parents were supportive. Although this eased the stress of having to provide for myself and pay rent I couldn’t help but feel worthless. All I’d done did not pay off. I mean, this didn’t make sense. This couldn’t make sense. I’ve always been taught that if you do the right thing and work hard then you’ll gain in return, right?

One night I’m sitting on the coach watching television. I believe it was one of the housewives reality shows and thinking to myself, “these spoiled selfish bitches!” _______READMORE

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