As the saying goes, ‘cry me a river.’ That’s just want R&B crooner Robin Thicke is doing since he and his wife and actress Paula Patton split earlier this year.
Following infidelity rumors, on the part of the singer, the couple announced their separation last February after dismissing claims there was no trouble within their marriage for weeks.
Thicke has since spoken out publicly, expressing his remorse and sorrows over his wrong doings. Not only has he dedicated a number of new singles to his wife but he’s also named his latest album, ‘Paula,’ after her.
Now, Thicke is revealing some more details about the state of his marriage. And, well, it isn’t going well. In fact, during his Hot 97 radio show interview, Wednesday morning, he reveals he hasn’t seen his wife in four months.
Here’s some of what he had to say,
On what to expect from his new album Paula:
I go back and forth from talking about her and then I’m speaking to you. So sometimes it’s about her, and sometimes I’m talking directly to her. […] It’s so hard for people who aren’t in our house to know…. the album and us breaking up has nothing to do with the success or what happened last year. It’s just two people that wasn’t working anymore. And I’ve always been the kinda person who wants to admit his faults so I can improve as a human being. So it’s like being an alcoholic. You gotta first be able to say, ‘I got problems.’ So this album is dedicated to her, but half it is about my problems and me getting certain things together so I can be the kinda man I wanted to be.
Last time he saw Paula:
I try to keep most of that private but I haven’t seen her for four months, man. We cool. She’s the best girl in the world, great mother and still a good friend. But because we just weren’t ever together anymore, I still had so much to apologize for and things I wanted to take responsibility for. But I still wanna wish her well and let her know she’s a great person and she deserves to have a great life, so it’s not all a negative album.
The album is exactly what happens when you lose the love of your life and you trying to figure it out in your head. ‘How am I gonna get through it all.’
On if she’s heard the album:
She hasn’t heard it. She’s only heard a few songs and I don’t think she wants to hear it right now. I think she probably, I can’t speak for her, but I think space is an important part of the healing process.
On messing up their relationship:
I’m a man and I messed up and I had to lie for a while and then I stopped lying. That was actually good for me because I was tired of lying so this whole album is me revealing everything.
I think the only thing different with this album is, it’s never her fault. In real life, relationships aren’t like that, but in this point of our relationship, the only reason we’re not together is because of choices I made.
I knew exactly what I had. It’s not that simple. After 20 years, it didn’t work for 20 years because it wasn’t right. It was right, but sometimes people grow apart. You don’t build love in a day and you don’t lose it in a day.
[Cheating] is not why we’re apart. We’re apart because we just couldn’t be together anymore, for a while. There’s a hundred different reasons. There isn’t just one. There’s a long list. I changed and I got a little too selfish, too greedy, too full of myself.
How he’s dealing with pain:
The alcohol helps. My music is my therapy. When I make these songs and I listen back to them, they make me feel good about myself because at least I’m admitting my faults, I’m trying to become a better man, better person and better father. That’s what I have to do right now.
For the full interview watch below.