There’s much more to Kenya Moore than we think. There may even be an explanation for some of her bizarre behavior, lack of female friendships (our own observation), and pursuing relationships with men that are unavailable.
According to Kenya, it all stems from not having a relationship with her own mother. Following last Sunday’s explosive episode with Kandi Burruss’ mother expressing disapproval of her fiancé, Todd Tucker, and even insinuating Burruss’ best friend, Carmen, was having an affair with Todd, Kenya felt the need to open up with her own issues with her biological mother.
Moore, first, expresses her belief that Mama Joyce should trust Kandi’s decision in marrying Todd. She then admits she’s rather have an overbearing mother than a non-existing one, something she’s dealt with her entire life.
Moore says, “Ironically, I would rather have a mother that acts inappropriately to protect me than not have a mother at all. My Aunt Lori is my mother’s sister and has always been a mother figure to me. She is smart, driven, successful, and kind. Since birth, my mother made the decision at age 16 to pretend she never had me. She has never spoken to me. Even if present in the same room with other people and family, she pretends that I simply don’t exist. She pretends I’m invisible.”
“I fully understand that there has been a void in my life because of this, which relates to my romantic relationships. I have never had any issues with falling in love, dating, sustaining long-term relationships, or attracting great men in my life, who have loved me unconditionally. Although I have had now seven proposals of marriage, I have never accepted one.
As my Aunt pointed out, I choose “unavailable men.” I’ve never wanted a married man or one that is in a relationship. I acknowledge I have a pattern of falling for men who are emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable in terms of distance, or categorically unavailable with respect to time or where they are in life. For instance, some men know they are not ready for marriage. Perhaps my pattern is that I unconsciously seek rejection or failure with these men, which sadly mimics my mother’s relationship.
Although I have suffered a great deal of pain from my mother, my understanding of my own pathology is a step toward healing. Everyone has a story. Everyone has suffered loss, pain, or rejection on some level. My story of my mother has been written and published for 42 years. My story of having a family of my own is still being written. I have had a series of unfortunate setbacks, but I have faith in knowing that God has a plan for me. My Aunt believes that if a baby is what I want now, then I should focus on that. For me, I will explore all my options as I have someone special in my life. I have learned my lesson about pressuring a man for marriage. With that said, I will continue to work on myself so that I can be the best woman, friend, companion, and mother to my future children… God’s speed.”
Wow, this certainly explains a lot. We wish Kenya well and hope she’ll find that special someone.